Let's have a little honesty...I mean that is why I started this right??? Let's talk about men....boys...men...I am not really sure what they are, lets call them guys....
I've made a lot of mistakes in my dating life, which means I have learned a lot about what I want. I experienced something this weekend that inspired me to beat up on guys a little. I will start with a disclaimer...not all guys are the same and not everything is directed at one specific guy. I have some very awesome guys in my life and some of my best friends are guys but there are some things I need to get off my chest.
Where have all the cowboys gone? Yes that is a song, and yes its been in my head all day! But seriously, where are they? Which leads to another song..."Momma's don't let your babies grow up to be cowboys..." That's where all the cowboys are...being a momma's boy and not acting like a man. I have heard the phrase "I would love to be a stay at home dad" more times then I ever thought I would lately. Seriously!? What happened to the man being the head of the household? What happened to for the natural desire to provide for your family?
And sports...I work in an office where I know more about sports then half the guys there. Usually guys are at least interested in one specific sport or have a basic knowledge but I have had some of the most jaw dropping conversations at times that I just do not understand. Bill has taught me a lot and hanging out with a bunch of boys in high school helped too but it just amazes me when I meet guys who could care less about any sport.
And then there is the ability to talk to a girl. I always thought girls were the ones that played games with their words...I'm not proud of it but I've done it. Little did I know, guys do it too!!! Or they just don't have the balls to actually say what they want. I ran into a guy this weekend that I haven't seen in over a year. He was literally a foot away from me, he made eye contact with me, he pretended I wasn't even there. I may have broken his heart, but I also gave a nice apology for it and this reminded why I didn't date him...he needed to grow a pair. If he had really wanted to date me he probably would have had a chance, but he was too busy being scared to say what he wanted and I wasn't going to say it for him. Oh and NEWSFLASH...if you give a girl an opportunity to wonder what is going on, she will, and she will assume, and she will talk to all of her girlfriends, and they will all give a different opinion, which will only make it worse for you, so never leave room to wonder. Surprise is ok but uncertainty, I promise you, is a bad thing. We are mean in groups, and we will pick you apart when we are in groups, don't worry we talk about your good things too but we will find every way you can do something wrong and its not pretty. Just make it easy for us and be honest, we love honesty whether we are the girl or the friend of the girl.
Let's talk about the sensitive guys...I am all for a guy who is in touch with his feelings, that's great. However, there is a possibility of being too sensitive. If your feelings get hurt because you didn't get the girl you wanted, or because another guy said the wrong thing its ok to be upset. Don't most guys go to the gym and sweat it out? When did all this pouting start? Did it come with skinny jeans? I can see the relation. I mean, do real men wear skinny jeans? My friend Cameron and I have had many conversations about skinny jeans, lets leave them to the ladies, we are meant to show off our curves! Sensitivity however can be as unattractive as it is attractive. I don't exactly know where the line is but just be careful.
Last but not least lets talk about the good guys...they pay attention to the details, they know what they want and they go for it, they make you feel like the most important girl in the room and they treat you the best they can. No games, no worry, no sweat. I'm not sure its that hard, I think its just finding the girl you are willing to be that way with.
Guys...watch an action movie and man up...even the guys in chick flicks are probably tougher then most of you right now. Ladies want to be safe and protected, not protecting. Oh and don't take any of this personally...there are lots of guys who do not fit any of these things.
Keep Smiling:)
Alli
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